tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23522785.post3987317817532301381..comments2023-09-25T08:07:19.567-07:00Comments on tangocherie in Los Angeles: Friends Forever or Acquaintances for Now?tangocheriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10012220622641996877noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23522785.post-72597293667739240462011-10-28T16:33:12.625-07:002011-10-28T16:33:12.625-07:00Cherie, I also use the measuring stick of "wh...Cherie, I also use the measuring stick of "who will take you to the emergency room". It is often a surprise to realize just who will, and who cannot be subject to "obligation". Very good post and relevant to all situations. We have to be observant and careful of how people treat others before we become "friends"<br />Tina, your friends here are looking forward to seeing you. We are all here, same as ever, but a little wiser.<br />EElizabeth Brintonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13814965814308408209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23522785.post-65740425328854322692011-10-28T05:56:26.130-07:002011-10-28T05:56:26.130-07:00Great post! I think that living in a different cou...Great post! I think that living in a different country, we notice this a lot more than we do at home. At home, we have our set, rooted group of friends so we don't realize just how complex the issue of making friends is. We get to a new country, and in terms of tango it's definitely as you describe, and of course then there is the mere fact that the people in our new country or city already have their own friends, life routines, etc., and aren't necessarily looking to "add" new friends.<br />I know when I was living in the south of Italy there was all this enthusiasm over me, the "maestra" (oh *please*) and DJ, and when that wore off, I was pretty much alone except for a few people. And even then, I have learned to maintain my own distance, and I only call one of those people a friend, while the rest I am more than happy to consider acquaintances from tango. It works out - We're always glad to see each other at the milonga and there is no drama or "TMI". If we are to get closer and become friends, it will happen naturally.<br /> Now that I'm in the north of Italy, people are generally a lot more reserved, so it's a matter of taking initiative on my end.<br />The best thing that tells me if someone is my friend is time. If time goes by and that person is still there, I know we're set. :-)Tinahttp://tinatangos.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23522785.post-37819821243037897122011-10-27T07:00:19.450-07:002011-10-27T07:00:19.450-07:00Oh honey, I am relating so much to this ..
At leas...Oh honey, I am relating so much to this ..<br />At least my best friend is still here, my husband .. we manage fine with all of the new acquaintances we have here ..Notes From ABroadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12202279303962539035noreply@blogger.com